How to persuade parents that maths A level is not essential for success

In many cultures, there is a deep-rooted belief that certain subjects – especially mathematics and the sciences – are essential for success, regardless of a student’s career aspirations. 

This mindset, while understandable given the academic pressures in these societies, does not always align with the realities of international university admissions. As a counsellor, it is your role to guide students and parents through informed decision-making, ensuring that choices reflect the student’s strengths, interests and future goals, rather than outdated or misinformed societal expectations.

In many educational systems, mathematics is often considered the most important subject, and students are expected to study it at an advanced level, even if their career aspirations do not require it. Similarly, parents may encourage their children to take science-based subjects on the assumption that universities favour students who choose the most academically rigorous options. 

Traits that top universities value

The academic approach in some countries focuses on intensive study, rote memorisation and mastering foundational skills through repetition. While this method produces disciplined students, it can also limit flexibility and independent thinking – traits that top international universities highly value. 

Universities want to see students who are organised, conscientious, hardworking and curious, rather than simply those who have studied the most difficult subjects. They assess applications holistically, looking beyond subject choices to consider critical thinking, engagement and overall academic and personal development. 

While academic rigour is important, universities highly value students who can think independently, adapt to challenges and demonstrate intellectual curiosity – qualities that are not necessarily cultivated through rote memorisation alone.

Making tough decisions

As a counsellor, your job is to help students gain confidence in making tough decisions about their education while also ensuring that parents understand the reasoning behind these choices. This includes providing students and parents with the tools and knowledge to choose subjects that align with students’ strengths, interests and long-term aspirations. A key part of this is empowerment, which involves helping students develop the confidence to take control of their own academic journey, while also reassuring parents that these decisions are informed and beneficial.

Encouraging families to think about their direction rather than a specific destination is crucial. University and career paths are evolving, and rigid subject selections based solely on perceived prestige can limit a student’s ability to adapt. Instead of focusing on the “hardest” subjects, families should consider subjects that genuinely interest the student and align with their future studies or career ambitions.

Working with parents is just as important as working with students. Many parents genuinely believe they are making the best choices for their child, but their fears about the unknown – especially regarding university admissions – can lead them to impose rigid academic expectations on their children. 

Bridging the gap between parental concerns and student aspirations

A counsellor’s role is to bridge the gap between parental concerns and student aspirations through consistent communication and trust-building.

Control your messaging: be clear, factual and consistent in explaining how international university admissions work.

Emphasise holistic admissions: explain that universities value more than just subject choices – they look at engagement, leadership and the ability to think critically.

Be willing to hold parent meetings: one-to-one discussions can ease anxieties and help parents better understand the student’s perspective.

Encourage parents to support rather than direct: guide parents to empower their children rather than dictating choices based on outdated beliefs.

Clarifying goals and identities

A crucial part of effective counselling is helping students to clarify their goals and identities before they even begin thinking about university choices, and ensuring that parents recognise the importance of this process. Instead of seeing A-level subject selection as a fixed path, families should view it as a foundation for lifelong learning and adaptability. This means working with students and parents to identify:

• The student’s interests and passions
• Their learning strengths and challenges
• Possible career fields that excite them
• How different subject combinations can keep multiple options open.

This will help students to make subject choices based on their personal growth and ambitions, rather than societal or familial pressures – and parents will feel reassured that their child is making informed decisions.

Addressing parental misconceptions about A-level subject choices requires patience, cultural sensitivity and clear, evidence-based communication. Counsellors must balance supporting students in making empowered choices while also helping parents understand the realities of international university admissions. 

By fostering trust, encouraging goal setting and advocating for student autonomy, counsellors can create a collaborative environment where students feel supported in their academic journey, and parents feel confident in their child’s decisions. 

Education is about direction, not just destination. And, as a counsellor, your role is to guide students and parents towards choices that serve their future, not just their present circumstances.